I wrote this last year but feel it important to share again. The Lord has brought me full circle in the matter of being quiet, particularly in reference to our husbands.
"Better is an handful with quietness, than both the hands full with travail and vexation of spirit." ~ Ecclesiastes 4:6
"The LORD is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him. It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the LORD." ~ Lamentations 3:25-26
"And indeed ye do it toward all the brethren which are in all Macedonia: but we beseech you, brethren, that ye increase more and more; And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you; That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing." ~ I Thessalonians 10-12
Over the last year the Lord has been teaching me to be quiet. The Lord will always take our fumblings and self-will and use it to His glory but have you ever stopped to think about what He might do if were to just be quiet for awhile? If we were to serve and love others...particularly our husbands...but cease to constantly excerpt our thoughts and opinions... Are you guilty of speaking defensively to some of your husbands comments? I am. Are you guilty of snipping at your husband when he fails to live up to your expectations? I am. Are you guilty of grumping and nagging your husband? I am. Are you guilty of just being crabby and sour in tone of voice? I am. How about the other side of the coin? Are you guilty of giving suggestions that weigh heavily towards your desires? I am. Are you guilty of jumping on the bandwagon of complaint or gossip? I am.
Silence and quietness is a powerful and tremendous blessing. Without our constant ramblings and regular voice into ALL matters, I wonder what the Creator would do. What exactly would He work together? What precisely would He orchestrate in the heart of your beloved husband without your words. Don't misunderstand me now... Our words can be a great encouragement to our husbands. I am his helper, his lover, his confidant, his best friend. I should be the arms of Christ when my beloved is weary. I should be his greatest warrior, in prayer on your knees daily for my husband. We should always be ready with words of kindness and encouragement for our husbands.
Do you often think you know what is best? I do. I am guessing that there are times when we do know best but it may not always be appropriate for us to make sure that we tell our husbands just how it should be. Have you been in prayer over a particular issue concerning your husband or your children or your family? The Lord has been teaching me that there are great rewards and blessings in silence. Serving, loving and ministering to my beloved husband in silence is an amazing thing! We visit and talk of course but God's word tells us to pray without ceasing and to do all things without complaining or arguing. When we are in constant prayer and when we never complain or argue, the words from our mouth should be laced with sweetness and never spoken without prayer first. "Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones." ~ Proverbs 16:24
Think of all that God has created. Think of the daily miracle of the sunrise and sunset. Think of the intricacy of how God weaves together the lives of our wee babies within us. Think of how awesome and amazing God is. Think of the power and omnipresence of the Lord. Now think of what your marriage might be like if you were always praying and often silent.
"1I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; 2For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty. 3For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour; 4Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth. 5For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus; 6Who gave himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time. 7Whereunto I am ordained a preacher, and an apostle, (I speak the truth in Christ, and lie not;) a teacher of the Gentiles in faith and verity. 8I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. 9In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 11Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 13For Adam was first formed, then Eve. 14And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. 15Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety." ~I Timothy 2
It is in my heart to encourage you as a wife. To encourage you to be the woman that God designed you to be. God's design for your life will set you apart from this world. It is right and best for all of us to start our day on our knees. All of the words written above come as a result of my selfish and my sinful nature and as the result of the correction of a loving Heavenly Father. "But exhort one another daily, while it is called today; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. ~ Hebrews 3:13" "And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: ~ Hebrews 10:24"
Won't you join me?
Being quiet is not always appropriate. Being prayerful is. We must take every thought captive and that is not possible once we have flung that thought out of our mouths. Conversely, taking a thought captive can translate into "taking something back" from the Lord that He intends you to speak to your husband. Ladies, we must be constantly in prayer. The thoughts that are on our heart ... we must take them to the Lord to determine when we should be quiet and when we should speak with tenderness and love. Being quiet can also create a place in which you run from the word of God...a crutch to not speak when the Lord is nudging you to talk to your husband.
Pray, pray, pray... We must pray without ceasing ladies. We must cry out to God and deny ourselves...we must seek His face and not be satisfied with the mere "crumbs" of His obvious existance in our lives. Trust in Him with all of your heart and never, ever lean upon your own understanding.
posted by Mrs. Klause
Originally posted: June 23, 2007