Wife, you just can't do it. Stop trying...

Isn't this a beautiful picture of a man and his wife? 

Clinging to one another...  Looking through his eyes right down into his heart...  Allowing the soft music to carry their steps...  The sweet smell of the flowers surrounding them...  When they stop dancing, they will peer out into the magnificent blue sky and wonder together...  Then they will wander over and see their images, side-by-side, in the reflection of the water...

I just can't be that wife to my husband.  I do not have all that he needs. 

You do not have all that your husband needs either.

You cannot be the wife that your husband needs.

What is it that you, Wife, have prayed about and determined that you need to do for or with your husband?  Words that you need to speak...  An attitude that needs adjusted...  An action carried out daily...

A conversation that needs to be had.

Socks that simply need to be picked up daily, with a smile on your face.

A friendship that needs to be ended.

An alarm clock that needs to be adhered to.

A tongue that needs to be controlled.

Daily exercise that needs to be done.

Meals that need to be prepared.

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I don't know what the Lord has laid on your heart or if you have even begun to seek the Lord's will in your daily words and actions toward your husband.  Are there things that you feel like you need to do that you just can't?  Are there words to be spoken that you just cannot seem to pull from out of the depths of your heart?  Are there tasks that you need to do or that your husband has asked you to do that you struggle to complete each day? 

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Our marriages are not about our happiness.  Most of us know that already.  We have made a commitment to love, honor, cherish and obey for better or worse until the sting of death parts us from our husbands.  Marriage is, however, about our holiness.  It is about refining us.  Our marriages are for the glory of God. 

As I sat before the Lord this morning, I realized something.

The Creator told me something this morning.  Not in words that were audible but in that "voice" that you can "hear" deep down inside your heart. 

"You cannot be all that he needs."

{sigh}

That statement doesn't mean exactly what you think it might mean though...

Sometimes we see things only from our perspective.

Marriage is not about our husband's happiness either.

God uses our marriages to make our husbands more holy.

God uses our marriages and what happens each and every day to refine our husbands.

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Our lives are so intricate.  The Lord weaves us together for His glory.  I do believe that it is beyond our ability to understand how God weaves our free will and poor decisions into His plan.  I recently shared a very simplified word-picture with a young woman:  The way that God weaves our lives all together would be like us trying to knit a tiny little baby's hat when someone keeps changing the color of the yarn and the pattern.  It is like trying to knit this hat when someone randomly removes one of your needles from your hand and then gives it back a while later. 

God gave us free will.  The ability to choose whether we would obey His will or whether we would disobey His will.  He "weaves" all things for the good of those who love Him.  He "weaves" our lives so that He is glorified no matter what our decisions.

My beloved husband's heart is beyond my ability to understand.  The work that God is doing in his heart is beyond my ability to understand.  No matter where our husband's are in their lives...  No matter who they are....

...loving or unloving...

...gentle or harsh...

...hard-working or lazy...

...sober or drunk...

...self-controlled or selfish...

...saved by Grace or not...

Wife, if you are seeking the will of God in your marriage, then you must obey when He makes clear a particular plan.  When the Lord tells us something or shows us something then we must simply obey.  We must take not allow our own emotions to control us but we must simply obey the whisper of our Heavenly Father. 

Ladies...if you have "heard" the Lord over a particular matter but are failing to carry it out or move forward...you, me...we are grieving the Lord greatly.  We are disobeying the Lord.  We are exerting our wills over the perfect will of the Lord.  We are allowing our emotions to control us.  We are thinking that we know better.  How arrogant we can be sometimes. 

Have you ever or do you ever instruct your children to simply obey and then ask questions later? 

:-)

I have.

I think it is that simple for us too.

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Do what you have been told to do Wife. 

Almighty God, Creator of the Heaven and Earth, The I Am...  He is at work in the hearts of our men.  We cannot be all that our men need.  We try to fill all the gaps.

There are threads that we do not have.  There are stitches that we cannot weave.  There are gaps that we cannot fill...

...only Christ can fill the gaps...

...only the work of The Master's hand can create some things...

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."  ~~Matthew 6:33

 "2That their hearts might be comforted, being knit together in love, and unto all riches of the full assurance of understanding, to the acknowledgement of the mystery of God, and of the Father, and of Christ;  3In whom are hid all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge."  ~~Colossians 2:2-3

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posted by Mrs. Klause

July 14, 2008

Music:  Canon in D

Comments

[Shannon L. Fowler]

GREAT post! :)

God Bless,
Shannon